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<p>[QUOTE=&quot;jolumoga, post: 26722941, member: 41780&quot;]That experience was so bad it was part of the reason why I avoided this forum for years. In thinking about that experience and others similar to it, I think we are apes with a rational veneer, comparing ourselves to others and signaling our status in subtle ways. This member also gave me a hard time a previous time when I posted as a &quot;newb&quot; - he expressed open contempt to newbs (unlike him - lofty with his experience). What both of these experiences showed is you can&#039;t always take any one experience in isolation - you have to view patterns of behavior over time to understand motives. He was using moral arguments to shame me and place himself above me (in his mind) socially. Anyway, I am older and wiser, and I learned you have to remain emotionally detached in these forums. This to me is a deep topic that can be a book.[/QUOTE]</p><p><br /></p>

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