Doc, Raise my voice? No. I'm on the meek side; my husband was "intense". We argued occasionally, never yelled. We had an enviable marriage, for which I feel very very lucky. I never forget how to be treated as a princess (which is what my husband did for all of our lives together.) Honestly. Which is what makes it difficult in the "real world" for me now. He took care of everything, running defense I guess you'd say. But argue, yes, occasionally we did so. I wish he were alive today, even if it could be only for a little argument! Let your wife do what she wants. Treat her like the princess she must be. (And I'm sure that you must already do so.) Lucy