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<p>[QUOTE=&quot;quick dog, post: 92265, member: 4093&quot;]I see parallels all over the place.</p><p><br /></p><p>mmarotta is not unlike millions of others who have invested a great deal of time into a hobby, education, business, or a marriage only to find that it was not what he had anticipated.&nbsp; I would guess that his problem comes from near-total emersion in coin collecting.&nbsp; Those that are never really caught-up in something would not understand where he is coming from.&nbsp; I know precisely how he feels, and have a solution of sorts.&nbsp; Like a typical &quot;man&quot;, I am into solutions, not idle talk.</p><p><br /></p><p>There have been hundreds of good and great novels written about this same psychological dynamic.&nbsp; I have a number of parallel scenarios in my own life, but I think my experience with music is the best example.</p><p><br /></p><p>My experience with music is common with a lot of other former wanna be musicians.&nbsp; A person that becomes interested in music practices endlessly and learns how to do it, some faster than others.&nbsp; Moat get better and better.&nbsp; Many musicians succeed, often in obvious skills and public acceptance rather than dollars.&nbsp; The earn &quot;psychic dollars&quot; if you like.</p><p><br /></p><p>Typically, musicians obtain the desired skills, then non-related issues muck it up.&nbsp; Bands break up, the musicians starve to death, or personal relationships&nbsp; preclude dedication to the music.&nbsp; There are a lot of egotistical jerks and human lizards in music circles.&nbsp; Ego is huge with most musicians.&nbsp; For whatever reason, thousands of really good musicians totally give up music.&nbsp; They walk away, cold turkey.&nbsp; Many feel that if they can not dediciate the time and effort to play at a high level, then they would rather not play at all.</p><p><br /></p><p>The solution to this common problem is to step back and find a way to have fun with the hobby.&nbsp; I played mandolin in a bluegrass band for ten years.&nbsp; The band broke up, and I basically didn&#039;t play again for ten years.</p><p><br /></p><p>I gave up playing structured mandolin music because it requires a whole band, a pretty good band, to do so.&nbsp; So, I now I play some guitar and sing cowboy and folk songs.&nbsp; I don&#039;t need a band, I have few audiences, and I can enjoy playing when I feel like it.&nbsp; No pressure.&nbsp; No expectations.</p><p><br /></p><p>In my opinion. the same thing is true with coin collecting or any other hobby which may demand a lot of time and money.&nbsp; A person needs to step back and enjoy some part of the scene.&nbsp; A person does not need to have the best collection in the world, or know everything about coins.&nbsp; Often times, the journey is more important that the destination.&nbsp; Collect coins or not.&nbsp; Just don&#039;t let coins or buttheads dominate your thoughts.&nbsp; Forget about the liars and thieves.&nbsp; Just enjoy what you can.</p><p><br /></p><p>There are some very nice people on this board.&nbsp; I enjoy it.&nbsp; I learn stuff.&nbsp; However, I don&#039;t intend to be a hardcore coin collector.&nbsp; I need to make wine and play my guitar.&nbsp; I also make bread, pet the dog, cut wood, and shoot stuff.&nbsp; I still like coins and nobody can make me mad or stop doing it.&nbsp; <img src="styles/default/xenforo/clear.png" class="mceSmilieSprite mceSmilie2" alt=";)" unselectable="on" unselectable="on" /> </p><p><br /></p><p><span style="color: YellowGreen">He climbs off his soapbox and shuffles back into the crowd...........</span>[/QUOTE]</p><p><br /></p>

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