So I sold a Lincoln Chronicle Set to my Cousin..

I would sell now while they are hot. IMHO, there is no real reason these sets will stay at these high premiums. You have to remember that the coins in the set are what determine the value. In this set, all the coins were also released separate from the set and in large numbers. So, the coins are common and can be found much cheaper than these sets sell for. Thus, the only thing that is keeping this set so valuable is the holder it comes in. I think these sets are going to take a large price dive in next year because of that. People will begin to realize these sets can be easily assembled for much less and the demand will drop...because we are coin collectors not holder collectors. So, if you have one and like it I say keep it. But if you are wanting to sell it to help fund another coin...I would sell sooner than later.

 

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To me a calm rational discussion is the best. To see what solution you all can come up with. As upsetting as this can be, I see no reason to let a little profit get in the way of family or a family re-union. At least now you know not to do this again for this cousin.

 

I seriously doubt that. ebay does nothing to counter abuse unless someone complains, and even then it takes many people complaining loudly and often. They don't track every single user by IP address, that's simply not true. I think the OP has nothing to worry about from ebay.

 

And I repeat;

BTW, since no user knows the bidders any more, no one else could have reported it except eBay. I wonder who blew the whistle on them. Could it have been eBay?

 

The amount is not worth getting into an argument over. Just remember the next time he asks for a similar favor and decline.

Too many friendships, and families are torn apart over the most petty of disputes. While $100 isn't tiny for most folks, it generally isn't worth a big family fight either. Life is tooooo short. There may be some other circumstances in the story that mitigate.

 

Hard lesson learned, Family is the worst to deal with about any kind of money!!

 

I would do the question to seller and state that you thought he wasn't going to sell it.

 

You know, it probably is best just to let it go and not say anything. I know I have said otherwise previously...and I personally probably couldn't keep my big mouth shut. But, situations like these can only get worse. It's not enough money to mess up family over. So, let it go but don't forget it. Next time, don't do them the same favor.

 

Don't say a word to 'em. The silent treatment will speak for itself...

 

That was a rotten thing to do. I'd let him hear about it. Somebody would ruin a lifelong friendship and trust, a family member no less, over 90 bucks?? Pathetic. I'd let him have it. Whatever happens after that, happens. I wouldn't care.

 

I suggest you call him prior to the reunion, as you are right, you don't want to ruin anything for anyone else. And most likely you will get partial blame from others who are close to him if you do it in a family setting. Give him a piece of your mind now or it may fester in you and cause you to blowup later.

Heck just hearing about it, I have a few names for him and I don't even know the tur with a d. Anyways, get yourself free and confront the dude!!

 

They are watching me, I am watching you...

 

If a bid comes in from the same IP as the sellers, it's very possible Ebay will catch it.
I'm not saying they catch them all but they do catch some. It's been that way for years.

 

If a bid comes in from any computer the seller ever logged into ebay on, there could be trouble.

 

That's a raw thing to do. I would mention that to him in private but avoid a fight/conflict. Don't tell anyone else in the family what he did though. It's really not worth starting a huge ordeal over IMO. Just making it a fact that you know exactly what he did should embarass him. The beauty of my method is that you will always have one on him, he'll always know it and so will you. Perhaps a day may come eventually where he can pay you back either in money, hard labor, or whatever......but YOU hold the cards. It can be a beautiful thing to hold over many years.

 

Who started it? him, He chose to take a nice action from you and use it to gain $$$ in his pocket. That's not exactly the family thing to do

IF this were to happen to between one of my brothers I'd be P O'ed about it and rip into him about it cause I already know how he'd react. But that's just my take on the subject you know more about how your situation here is.

In any case keeping quite shouldn't be forced on you because your cousin wants to use you or your afraid of a fight in the family. I think you should say the truth to him.

If you believed he would not resell the chronicles set and that's why you gave it to him, I would let him know that and say that's not how family is suppose to act. Because such acts can and usually only lead to rifts between family members.

At the very least you are owed an apology and some of the profit. I say some because he is the one having to do the "work" of selling the set.

 

Wait a month or so and then tell him that an error has been found in the set and you want to check his for the error because its worth 10 times what they normally are. When he cant produce the set, inform him that you had seen the set on ebay and was disappointed that he had said one thing to you to get the set and then flipped it for a profit. Then just let it go.

 

Am I missing something from the original thread. If the cousin ordered the coin, didn't he also pay for the coin with his credit card? If he decides later to keep the coin, it is his coin. Having said all that, it isn't a real nice thing to do to a family member. But, family is family. You can't live with them and you can't live without them. My thoughts, let it go. I always find it a shame when family members don't talk to each other anymore over issues that are very minor in the scale of things.

 

no, the brother ordered the set and was reimbursed for it. he then gave it to the cousin.

Richard

 

Perhaps letting go and moving on would be a less troublesome option. Family relations are often ruined by needless invective.