Listen up ! All of ya !

Discussion in 'Announcements' started by GDJMSP, Oct 28, 2018.

  1. GDJMSP

    GDJMSP Numismatist Moderator

    It seems that once in a while I need to give the members of this forum a reminder of how you are and are not supposed to act here ! You are supposed to be civil to each other, treat each other with at least a modicum of respect. And yeah, I know, respect has to be earned, but there is such a thing as common decency, common courtesy, and good manners. And EVERYBODY here is supposed to make use of them !

    As a general rule, most of you actually do that, and for that all of you have my heartfelt thanks and admiration. But it seems that at times some folks just don't know how to act the right way. It's almost like they look for excuses to act out, to make snarky comments, to treat others with complete and utter disrespect. And it's almost like they go out of their way to do that.

    Well, we don't have any rules against people being rude here. And I'm certainly not even going to try and pretend to create any because it would be an effort in futility, and there would be no way to interpret let alone enforce such a rule.

    But what I am gonna do is ask you all to - GET OVER IT ! Stop with all the nonsense, make an effort ! Every single one of you knows how you are supposed to act around here, and NOT act around here. So start doing it ! You know how you want to be treated, so start treating everybody else the same way. Start showing some of that common decency, common courtesy, and good manners. And maybe, just maybe - it might actually work !
     
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  3. paddyman98

    paddyman98 No Common Cents! Supporter

    Understood.. So when new members call us unintelligent and know nothings, especially when they refer to themselves as a cat (meow) we should then ignore them.. Sure!
    I think it could work also. Peace :angelic:
     
  4. medoraman

    medoraman Supporter! Supporter

    Um, I do. I have seen the posts you mention, and chalked it up to trolling. You really think such a person like that is REALLY that interested in coins? If they were, they would drop the whole "meow" stuff. So I simply skipped over the threads entirely. Best way to avoid getting upset is to sidestep conversations you know will get your blood pressure up.

    Doug and Desertgem can back me up this comes from experience. There have been two members on CT where I would get riled up mightily about, Fatima and mrbrklyn. It took effort, but I simply learned to stay away from those threads that would "reel me in" as it were. Its an internet board about your hobby man, we are here to have a relaxing time and enjoy talking about our hobby. No sense having whatever a troll on a internet board says about you matter, ya know? :)
     
  5. Legoman1

    Legoman1 Active Member

    Hopefully the MeowtheCat fiasco was an isolated incident. However, in the future I'll make sure to be more civil with a grown man twice my age pretending to be a cat.
     
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  6. Legoman1

    Legoman1 Active Member

    As medoraman noted, someone having a serious inquiry would not behave in such a manner, and I believe many members of the forum have handled Meow's invasion of the forum appropriately.
     
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  7. GDJMSP

    GDJMSP Numismatist Moderator

    Yes, that is exactly what you should do paddy ! As they say it takes two to tango. So if one is standing there talking to themselves - there aint gonna be no dance !

    The only thing replying to behavior such as you describe does is to encourage them to keep coming on for more. It's like two kids on the playground - if one simply walks away, that's the end of it. But if they both stand there face to face insulting each other - rarely does it end in any way but bad for both of them.

    Ya know, I've often talked to people about what I do here as a moderator, not what I do as a member, but as a moderator, and do ya know how I describe it ? I describe it as babysitting the children. Because that's what it's like, only it's worse. With kids, at least most of the time, if somebody in authority tells them to stop, they'll stop. But with adults - not so. Adults seem to think that they can act any way they want to. They seem to think that all the rules about human behavior, how they were taught as kids to behave - don't apply anymore. That they can just say what they want and do what they want and get away with it.

    Now in real life, face to face interactions between people, they wouldn't do that. Why ? Because in most cases they know better, they know what acting like that is going to get them - and it's usually a fist in the face. But on a forum, well that can't happen, so they just go ahead and do it anyway.

    Now sure there are those who are the same face to face as they are on a forum. And they might actually start fights or get into fights on a regular basis. You know the kind of people I'm talking about, we all do. We've all seen 'em and been around 'em all our lives. But most people don't get into fights because they do know better. They know what's likely to happen if they do. Nobody ever wins in a fight, you either end up with a sore face or sore fists. So most folks do everything they can to avoid them.

    And that's what the vast majority of our members are - the people who know better. They're the ones who would walk away because that's the smart thing to do. All I'm suggesting is that you do it here.
     
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  8. Robin Gray

    Robin Gray Member

    Thank you for doing a great job as moderator. You are so right about walking away. I will not engage in back and forth behavior again.
     
  9. ldhair

    ldhair Clean Supporter

    My cat has me on ignore.:D

    Thanks for the reminder Doug. We need that from time to time.
     
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  10. CoinBlazer

    CoinBlazer Well-Known Member

    Understood sarge
     
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  11. BooksB4Coins

    BooksB4Coins Newbieus Sempiterna

    The age-old notion of respect begetting respect seems to have largely been thrown into the trash heap of history. The idea the many shouldn't have to bend over backwards to accommodate the demands of the few is well on its way there...
     
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  12. Lehigh96

    Lehigh96 Toning Enthusiast

    I loved Rueben, he was fun!
     
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  13. Lehigh96

    Lehigh96 Toning Enthusiast

    I don’t get in that many fights!
     
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  14. -jeffB

    -jeffB Greshams LEO Supporter

    Bad analogy, IHMO.

    On a playground, a pest can generally bug one other kid at a time. That kid can choose to walk away.

    On a site like this, a pest can bug everybody at once. Okay, not everybody, but an arbitrarily large group of people.

    If all those people ignore him, everything will be fine. But if any one of those people engages the pest, he gets the attention he's looking for.

    Good luck getting an entire group of people to do the right thing from the get-go. Some of us have had a bad day, some of us have some growing up to do, some of us honestly try to be helpful -- but the upshot is, without occasional strong-arm help from the moderators, trolls will find what they're looking for here.

    Please don't think of us as kids on a playground, even if many of us act that way occasionally, and some of us act that way frequently. This isn't a playground, and the trolls aren't kids trying to push other kids around one at a time. (At least most of them aren't, probably, appearances aside.)
     
  15. Robin Gray

    Robin Gray Member

    !
    You are so right, I'm 61 years old and should know better than to respond to someone who is obviously seeking attention. That was my fault. One of the moderators told me about the ignore button. That will solve any problem. Thanks.
     
  16. medoraman

    medoraman Supporter! Supporter

    I liked him on some threads, not so much on others. I am with you. I love lively debates, getting out of the "old man" seriousness. Fatima as well, had some very valid insights at times, yet other times I seriously disagreed with him/her.

    What is the old saying, every time you point a finger there are three pointing back at you? There is some of that in this topic. If someone gets on your nerves, you should know yourself and walk away. Sometimes I could engage Ruben, other times not. I needed to learn about me more than "correct" him.
     
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  17. Bambam8778

    Bambam8778 Well-Known Member

    Sometimes I behave in life and here. Other times (more so than not) this is it in a nut shell.......... tumblr_o3xnb7bUKa1u5qq1so2_500.gif
     
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