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<p>[QUOTE=&quot;GDJMSP, post: 8254003, member: 112&quot;]It&#039;s a simple fact of life, there are good dealers, so-so dealers, and bad dealers. Just like there are good collectors, so-so collectors, and bad collectors. In other words, it&#039;s people, and they come in all shapes, sizes, types, and personalities. And as people, we, are constantly sorting them all out. But we also have to keep in mind, they are also constantly sorting us out. And that, all by itself, can make a difference in how we perceive them, and how they perceive us, on initial contact/meeting.</p><p><br /></p><p>To put all this another way we have to sort the good from the bad, but so do they. Now sometimes that&#039;s easy to do, other times it&#039;s too easy to do, and yet other times it&#039;ll be more difficult, maybe because of caution on both sides. So it&#039;s often best to not have preconceived notions and expectations on initial meetings, to have an open mind and try to understand the other person&#039;s side of things. They&#039;re going through exactly the same things you are. They want good customers just as much as you want good dealers. Sadly not all people out there are good people, you know that, and they know that. </p><p><br /></p><p>So maybe, just maybe, give a little. Instead of a witty retort to a comment you take one way, let it slide and make a friendly comment. It can often bring about a profound change, or not. But you&#039;ll know which it is soon enough. </p><p><br /></p><p>I have often said that the very best thing a collector can do is to establish relationships with dealers. And that just aint gonna happen by dishing out vinegar, when you should be dishing out honey. So maybe, just maybe, dish out a little honey - it could go a long ways, and often when you least expect it. Of course if all ya get is vinegar in return then walk away, but don&#039;t dish out vinegar of your own, just walk away. Ya never know who else is nearby and paying attention to what&#039;s going on. </p><p><br /></p><p>It may be that good dealer you&#039;re looking for, at the next table, or on the opposite side of the aisle. And if all you&#039;re doing is dishing out vinegar, he&#039;s not gonna want to have anything to do with ya. So you could be doing more harm to yourself than ya are good by trying to feel better by retaliating.[/QUOTE]</p><p><br /></p>

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