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Message:: [QUOTE="phankins11, post: 2130541, member: 70703"]A lot of times its not what you do\say but how its done In a case like this with the OP, one could say "I understand your questions, and I'll be glad to help answer them, but lets make sure you understand what you're asking." This response creates a context for the OP to learn in a positive environment and lets them know they are welcome and can depend on others here to help them learn. Or...one could say "It's obvious from your questions that you don't know what you're doing and you need to learn a lot more before your questions are answered." This kind of response automatically puts the OP on defense. It makes them feel unwelcome, creates a perception that they are nuisance, and that no one whats to help with what they are trying to learn. Your content was good, but unsolicited and also presented in a way which was similar to the latter of the two examples above. You were offensive in the WAY you present what you think, not in WHAT you think. And don't forget this is not the "how do I write, type, speak and look profressional" forum...its the coin talk forum. He's not here to get unsolicited advice on how to write properly.  Agreed, if it's positive or constructive and ONLY if the OP asked for it...but he didn't. It wasn't your place or time, nor was it for any others for that matter.[/QUOTE]