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<p>[QUOTE=&quot;BooksB4Coins, post: 3021823, member: 36230&quot;]First, kudos on the more thoughtful/reasonable approach. There&#039;s little lower than someone with just a little bit of power eagerly willing to use it to punish others based upon pure emotion.</p><p><br /></p><p>When it comes to things like this, ask yourself if you <i>prove</i> the other party&#039;s claims false. Not suspect, think, feel likely, etc, etc, but can you actually <i>prove</i> with absolute <i>certainty</i> that they&#039;re lying? Let&#039;s spin this around, say you&#039;re the seller, and that you discovered some issue with a buyer&#039;s address; if the buyer didn&#039;t believe it, do you feel they rightfully have grounds to neg you? Basically, just apply the golden rule: if you wouldn&#039;t want to be negged, don&#039;t be the petty person who holds themselves to a different standard than they hold others to.</p><p><br /></p><p><br /></p><p><br /></p><p>This is a good example of how discourse is a much better option than simply assuming the worst (as many folks here just <i>love</i> to do).</p><p><br /></p><p>That said, and again with emotion aside, if this is true can you honestly blame him? Perhaps he was a tad quick to assume sufficient time had passed, but he did reasonably base it upon past interaction. Even more important is if eBay policy doesn&#039;t take realistic shipping times into account, can anyone here really blame the guy for not wanting to open himself up to the possibility of eBay-promoted thievery? I&#039;m sure someone would try to make the case that he should&#039;ve known ahead of time, but does it really matter? If an honest oversight, he&#039;s going to protect himself in future listings. If not, sooner or later someone will nail him for it, so what is there to gain by punishing him for what could very well be something he wasn&#039;t aware of at the time of sale?</p><p><br /></p><p>There&#039;s nothing wrong with being upset or frustrated over things not working out, but this doesn&#039;t mean the other guy genuinely deserves to pay for hurt feelings. In the real world, sometimes things simply do not work out for perfectly reasonable reasons and is just a part of life. For what it&#039;s worth, I think walking away is not only the big thing to do, but also says much about your character. Well played imo.[/QUOTE]</p><p><br /></p>

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