Avenge a crime with another crime? He'll know who sliced his tires. The OP lost his coins, you'd like him to lose his freedom, also? Best bet is to file a police report of the theft. Do it from the shop. The perp, seeing the cops taking the report, will certainly start to sweat. That way, when the coins are found, the thief will be prosecuted accordingly.
I wouldn't let him know I was filing a report. He's much less likely to do the easy thing and sell them locally if he feels the need to be cagey.
But if he gets nervous about it, he'll either do something stupid and get caught or he'll find a way to quietly return the coins.
Lol, he doesn't collect coins. However I have made a decision. For this guy to do this, after being confronted several times. He must have a inkling that I am serious about the coins. If he returns them so be it, If he doesn't then it is his bad, and life will give him what he deserves one day. I however will look at it like this: He must be in pretty bad financial situation, so I could understand stealing to feed a family, after all, what is material possessions compared to surviving. I would not deprive anyone of a comfortable life where food came as needed. So I will hope that if he sells them, he will use the money for a good purpose like feeding his children, and that I will really be the one saving his children from going hungry. In this thought, I am not as upset, but more sad. It must be horrible to have to do such things, or in a position where it was the only option. I hope life deals him a better hand later on.
Wait. so you literally just say "hey" to him and he all of a sudden jumps and immediately declares that he doesn't have your coins, when you didn't even mention them? That's weird, but sorry to hear about the situation. That's just stooping to the supposed crooks level. You would be no better than them by vandalizing/harassing them. Call the police and settle it in a civil manner.
No, I asked him if he saw them. He says no, then when I see him later on, he just stares at me. I say "What's up" He says " Dude I don't have your !#$%ing coins, I know I was the last in the bathroom, but it wasn't me" I was pretty flustered when I asked if he saw them, so maybe I came off in a accusing tone, so that could be why. Either way I am over it, I saved up for them. I got them. I don't care anymore, I cannot dwell on it, I must go forth and collect more. I am a good man, and I will not let this hold me down, and I won't risk ruining his children's lives by prosecuting him. I wish he knew this, and felt bad about it. But he won't know, and that's okay. I feel good just knowing it myself.
Could be stealing for food but that a relatively easy problem to fix with food stamps, food banks, etc. Probably stealing for drugs.
I think you should report the coins stolen now. Further, if his children are hurt because he stole from you then he is the one who hurt them not you. You can't let someone do something criminal and then do nothing because the criminal is hiding behind civilians and using them as shields. If there is a problem he is responsible not you. The right thing to do is report them missing to police right now, then wait for the coin stores to call you. You have no obligation to feed his family regardless of how many problems they have. Otherwise your family would never eat because there will always be someone less fortunate then you are. You worked and saved for the coins, report them missing and you still have a chance to get them back.
While that is a nice gesture feeling sympathy if that is the case and he is hurting financially. But when it comes down to it, that is not your problem and not your situation to fix. It would be one thing if he was family or a friend and asked for help, but when you work hard for something and it is stolen all sympathy really goes out the window. This of course is assuming he did take them.
No, the OP doesn't want to do that because he thinks they might have been stolen to feed the thief's hungry kids.
I did not make a police report specifically because I did not want to complicate business relationship. I just got promoted at work, and I do not think having police crawl all over will look good for me when I get my 30 day evaluation. I'd like to snag a nice raise, not become a nuisance. As an update, I went to work today, which is a few days since this has happened. I made a effort to re-go around and ask if anyone had found them. All said no again, and the rest asked me where I thought I lost them, and who I thought it was. I told them Bathroom, and I didn't know who (Cannot spread rumors at a business) Anyways, I go to the bathroom today around 10AM.... I open Medicine chest on wall to get out the soap to wash my hands. There sitting next to the soap sits my coins. I really do not care about them taking them as I now have them back. It must have taken a lot for the person to risk losing their job by returning them, and must have been a moral dilemma not scrapping them at a local shop. Anything I may get at work such as packages and such, will be instantly locked in my car from now on. I am just happy I got them all back!! YAY
I'm glad you got them back. I don't think that filing a report of the theft of your property at work should be looked upon by management as a nuisance. Had they been stolen from the owner, I'm sure management wouldn't consider a police report a nuisance.
