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<p>[QUOTE=&quot;Nathan B., post: 4602907, member: 112852&quot;]After having bungled things somewhat in my previous foray, here, I hope I can be forgiven for trying again(!).&nbsp; I&#039;ll try to be more respectful and careful, though.</p><p><br /></p><p>&quot;Drinking the Kool-aid&quot; is originally a reference to the Jonestown massacre.&nbsp; It refers to people who have been brainwashed into doing something very much against their own best interests.&nbsp; As such, it&#039;s a very derogatory expression, even if you didn&#039;t mean it harshly (and I&#039;m sure you didn&#039;t). In other words, if you had said, &quot;you&#039;ve been mislead into doing something against your own best interests,&quot; green18 could have seen your concern for him and others, also.&nbsp; The expression &quot;drinking the Kool-Aid&quot; has a different connotation that is much more negative, thus masking your positive intention in writing it.</p><p><br /></p><p>That&#039;s part of what I was trying to get at before.&nbsp; It&#039;s been wisely suggested to me that I need to gain a bit of a thicker skin, and that&#039;s probably true, but I think it&#039;s also true that we could all probably try to be a little more careful with what we write.&nbsp; I don&#039;t think that you would have made the Kool-Aid reference in person with green18, but if you did, the various non-verbal cues like smiles and gestures, and so on, as well as the ability to be asked quickly for clarification, would have helped green18 to realize that you didn&#039;t mean harm.</p><p><br /></p><p>I agree that green18&#039;s response was not appropriate, but I think he was receiving a message that you weren&#039;t actually sending.[/QUOTE]</p><p><br /></p>

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