A little help with a situation...

I don't hold grudges. That's how you get ulcers.

Is her emotional attachment to the coin because of you? If not, try to reason with her and explain that she could get a much nicer example for less money. Offer to help her find another one.

It's great that her family can support her, but that isn't you. How much respect do you think her family would have for you if you sold her the coin for the price offered to you by another?

The way I see it, you're in a "no win" situation. If you sell or give the coin to her, you'll have your creditors hounding you, and they could care less about your girlfriend. If you sell it to pay bills, you risk harming your relationship. If, as you say, she's the kind of woman who cares about others, I would think she'd understand. Maybe she is just testing you to see how far you would go to please her. I don't know, but if that's part of her plan, then I don't think she sees you as part of her future either way. From my experience, very, very, very few women have unending respect for a man they can manipulate.

Chris

 

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Chris

 

You know, there is the other side of the situation... if I sell it to her and if/when we get married, it legally becomes half mine again, haha.

Her emotional attachment to the coin may be because of me, but I doubt it. I think she just likes the way it looks. Apparently her grandfather had one back in the day, and it was stolen while he was overseas in Germany during WWII. If she wants to get him one, I don't see why she has to have this one... this is a pretty nice example, not a pocket piece.

Her parents would think I made the right decision to sell it based on the excellent ROI from it. They seem to be highly money-driven people. I don't exactly have creditors "hounding" me, but I'm someone who hates being in debt. I want to get my student loans paid off ASAP. I think she'll come around on the issue sooner or later.

Haha. Well, she lives in North NJ, like, 40 minutes outside of NYC. I, on the other hand, live about 25 minutes south of Philly. She drives down here pretty much every weekend to see me. A two hour drive, minimum, each way. A drive I have made 4 times in our three and a half year relationship, lol.

 

sadly, it doesn't work that way. when you get married, what's hers is hers, and what's yours is hers. :goofer:

 

I might explain the fact that you could sell it for quite a profit and buy her a different one. The search would be something special you could do together with the final coin having more sentimental value. That's what I would do. It sounds like she impulsively wants it, but in a few months won't care much about it. Do what is right for you, not her.

The one thing I wouldn't do is sell it to her, money issues ruin relationships. Same reason not to go into business with family members.

 

So I figured I'd update you guys. Her parents are gonna buy it off me and give it to her as a gift. Everybody wins. Rich parents ftw.

 

Don't even go there! One day she might get ticked at you and take you up on it.........literally!

Actually, it sounds like you have a pretty good lady, but I still think you should try to convince her to find a better example.

Chris

 

The answer is obvious, think of the future! She is trying to take an interest in your hobby.
Many of us would love to have a GF or spouse that collects as well. She wiil trust you more and more with your coin purchases. Give her the coin let her start her own collection and she may be ok with you buying better coins in the future. She may even encourage it and who knows, she may even buy you some key coins in the future!

If you sell it out from under her bad things could happen like her constantly criticizing your coin buying habits and don't forget that females can hold a grudge for a long, long time.

What was that saying about a woman scorned?