Good Morning CT Members, I wanted you all to know that Harkenkc (Tim) contacted me by email this morning. After reviewing the situation with him, we have agreed to a solution outside of a legal action. 1) He gets to keep the book, at no cost. 2) the only debt to be re-payed are simply the bank fee's associated with his check. 3) Re-payment of those fee's will be , when he gets on a financial solid ground. 4) I did scold him, for not coming forward sooner. Pride sometimes does us all in. So to bring this community affair to a close, I implore you, should he begin to revisit the forums, do not approach this subject with him. He has suffered enough as far as I am concerned, and it should end with that. Thank you to all who had supported me in this dilemma. I'm happy, it worked out this way.:thumb::hail::hail::hail:
Frank, He explained to me the circumstances for the NSF, which was believable. When you rely on Veterans Disability payments and back pay, the VA keep you hanging more often than not. I know, I'm a disabled Vet myself, and have gone through the process he is going through. That does not excuse totally his lack of communication with me. But again there were mitigating circumstances which made it somewhat difficult for him in that end. Again, I too have been in a similar situation, and pride and even despair takes over and your stuck in no-go mode. It's not right, but it happens. He will make good on all the NSF fees, and I gifted the book to him. Lets hope things get better for him.
I agree completely with Dougs statement, Tho I'm not sure if I would have acted similarly in that same situation. I'm in the "live within your means" camp. Don't let the want overpower the needs.
pax Congrats on resolution. Let there be peace, even if inconvenient in the short run. Since the gifted book was of it's own nature I hope it's content makes the journey worthwhile for all involved. Perhaps even a better future. Now, if this had been over a copy of The Anarchist Cookbook, I would be looking up a taxidermist for the perp!:kewl:
My hat's off to both of you for coming to a mutually agreeable resolution. I am always amazed at the depth of the reservoir of goodwill and understanding that can be tapped in difficult situations. Good on the both of you.
Well, I believe there is always a solution to every problem. It simply takes a willingness to be honest, not only with yourself, but rigorously honest with another human being. You would be surprised at the depth of understanding that is available. Thanks for all the cudos!
I'm just glad its resolved. And if you are understanding, and more importantly content with the outcome then thats all that matters.
If he is in such a bad situation, why is he buying $40 books? I respect you for your forgiveness, but that is his fault and no one else's.
