She doesn't really hate coins, just the ones I spend a lot of cash to buy. :lol: Of course, the things she buys are okay... -walking a fine line-
Sympathize with ya pal. But that's pretty much a syndrome that all married men suffer from. Guess that's why I'm divorced 8O
He he, this is a funny one. One thing I've done is sell coins to fund buying new coins. This way, I don't have to dip into our joint checking account ever to buy coins. Self-funding hobbies seem to go over well with spouses.
You could get a PO box and a separate checking account. Or you could just tell her "This coin cost less than those shoes* and I can always sell the coin and maybe even make some money on it. Try that with you shoes." *shoes works for my wife and my coins...you have to figure out what works for yours!
Thanks for the idea about separate checking account, I might try that. I've been thinking about doing some selling too, but the prices realized on eBay just look so sad.
I say it helps the kids with their education. When you do foreign coins, you can learn about the country they come from a bit. The wife is big on education, so that smooths it out a bit, and foreign coins tend to be less expensive.
Here's a saying that you have all heard before, I think; "Water, water everywhere, but not a drop to drink." Shipwrecked people shout it as they drift upon the sea. It sure is bad, but the saddest cry I've heard in my whole life Is the one you hear when you lend an ear to the Coin Collecter's Wife. Money, money everywhere, but not a dime to spend. If this keeps up our marriage is coming to end. Money in the dresser, drawer, and money on the shelf; But there isn't one thin dime to spent upon myself. Lincoln cents and Mercury dimes and Washington quarters too... Some of them are old and worn and some of them are new I wish my husband cared as much about the way I look... The paycheck doesn't seem to mean a thing to me, 'cause hubby needs a 1909-S Lincoln VDB. As soon as he gets the coins, he'll be looking for some other, I think I'd be better off if I went home to mother. One day in desperation, I took a half-dollar; He said it was a commemorative and you should have heard him holler! Another time I took a coin that he said was a "proof"; When I told him that I spent it, I thought he'd raise the roof! With all that money 'round the house, we're really very poor; I'm getting sick and tired of it, of that I'm really sure. So, I advise you, single girls, if you want a happy life Don't marry a coin collector and be a coin Collector's Wife; Shouting "money, money everywhere and not a dime to spend"; Don't ever let a coin collector be more than just a friend.
"The way most guys get around this is with Trends and the Red Book. Most coins are sold at "wholesale" -- assuming you are not an eBay regular -- and so you come home from the coin shop or coin show and you price the newps against the retail guides and show her how much you saved and how much you could sell them for and let her imagine what they will be worth next year or ten years from now. It will work right up until the day you sell them. Good luck!
Husband who is "coming around" At first, he got mad. Then began to just sigh when picked up the mail at the post office. Then he got mad. Now I have started teaching him a few things, here and there, and showing him the coins, talking about different things about coins. Got him to watch a couple coin shows, videos, showed him a few books, etc. He is coming around, but still sighs occasionally, and keeps his eye on packages that don't come in, but must say he takes it quite well. Of course, I have cut down my expenditures since I am unemployed. I also tell him what a good deal I got, etc. And I also told him, I am NOT going to quit collecting coins. Think he was impressed when I found the Buffalo nickel while going through the nickel rolls the other night. He comes around a bit more each passing day. Besides I never have been one to squander money, go shopping at malls, buy lots of clothes, etc., etc. like other women do - so he trusts me and knows that I am wise. :roll:
My wife has very little understanding of coin collecting, even though the term for it comes from her native tongue - "numismatics" is a Greek word by root, and Greeks were the first to make and collect coins...but my wife isn't the type. She is more the traditional European type who is into spending money to improve personal appearance, get a nicer car, stuff like that - the materialistic side. The shopper. She does understand, however, that coins are my life outside my family. It is all I do, all I talk about, and all I want to be involved in. I study them to a point that most other people don't. I spend countless hours looking at coins through microscopes, digging through notes, creating more notes, writing articles, writing pages for web sites, updating databases...the real hard-core stuff. She understands and supports what I do even though she is quick to remind me that she doesn't care one bit about it. She is probably the ONLY person in the world who cares not one bit about doubled dies yet has seen 1936 cent DDOs, 1955 cent DDOs, 1972 cent DDOs, 1984 doubled ears, and 1995 cent DDOs through a microscope. She always looks to see what I am doing, but still says she has no interest. I don't plan on ever getting her interested in coins. I don't think that could ever happen. But one thing I don't get out of her is grief for all the time and money I spend on it. At least I'm not out at bars and out with other women, and she's happy for that.
I just got my wife to collecting and filling her own coin albums now I gotta share :cry: and if I want a new coin well she gets one too. 8O
