Stories of grief from spouse on coin collecting!

They're men. We must make them think they're still in charge.

 

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That was before the budget. She caught me off guard and I just threw out a number.

 

“Don't argue! You cannot win, you cannot beat a woman in a arguement. It's impossble you will not win. Cause men, we are handicapped when it comes to arguing cause we have a need to make sense”


Chris Rock quote

 

tell her it's the most harmless hobby of all.
You're collecting money for pete's sake.

 

I know Doug always says not to invest in coins, but I show my wife the auction values of the books and coins I buy, and gave her a list showing her who to send my books and coins to if something happens to me. I think if you can show your spouse what you are spending money on is not wasted, and how they can simply gather them up and send to an auction company if you are gone and get a check in the mail in the future, then a lot of heat is taken off of you.

Worked for me, she actually is happy when I show her how good of a deal I got. I think she is racking up the profit in her head!

 

I'm going to have to take your wifes side of this argument. It sounds like you can't live within the agreement that you originally made ($40). It sounds like you have a lot of excuses why you can but when all is said and done, its just excuses. You should be the man and honor your word. Without your word, little else matters in the world.

You might ask her to re-negotiate the budget every 6 months as your families needs will change but to make a deal and try to back out with excuses ..doesnt quite seem fair to her and your marriage.

 

I have to agree with andrew.

And marriage comes down to compromises. Sit down and talk to her about it.

 

No excuses given, just that $40 was not enough and she would not compromise and I have tried to re-negotiate, show her what great deals I have gotten, ect. Recently she FINALLY agreed to up it to $60, maybe $70 but she still thinks $40 or even less is more than enough.

 

I have to say, this thread has cracked me up.

To the OP: Sounds like a crazy situation to me. If you are spending money your family doesn't have, then I can understand where your wife is coming from. If she is just hassling you about what you like while she spends money on shoes, clothes, hairdresser and nail appointments you need to have a serious talk with her, and gain some respect back. It's all about respect and trust, and that can go both ways.

 

I keep my wife on her hands and knees. She's constantly saying, "tex get out from underneath that bed".

I think we all share the same constraints on spending and same back and forth with our spouse on spending. My wife has been pretty good about my budget and then I have the special budgets for a coin show.

I use to golf a lot and yes that was easily a $100 a month, not including upgrading clubs, golf toys etc. I don't golf anymore, at least until I retire. That's another bridge for later.

She does not get into the hobby like me, seems not interested, but yet knows I enjoy it. We hide nothing from each other. She will have a cow when I start on trying to justify that 09 S VDB, which is one of three Lincolns I need. The other two I can handle, but this one will be special. She may just throw it in the coffin at my funeral and say here it is, the one you wanted, but I will eventually get it.

 

Well......um.......just tell your wife to let us know where you're buried so we can......uh......grieve.

 

Ahh your so thoughtful:so-sad: