Stories of grief from spouse on coin collecting!

Here is the deal. I had started out with trying to collect on series of coins at a time, like all teh Kennedy proofs, Ike proofs, ect. But as I have gone on and some of teh years with silver have gone up I have been changing gears and buys whatever I can find a good deal on to fill some of my other holes that have not been previously looked at like my Jeff nickles or Washington quarters. Now, my wife is a little upset that I keep have changed my mind and on top of that, with my US Mint subscriptions I am going over what I budgeted each month. Granted, at teh time I gave her a figure I would spend, $40, I had no idea where I was going to go in my collecting.
So, my question to everyone is am I the only one that gets flack from their spouse on their hobby and is it just me that has a spouse that does not seem to understand that when you see a great deal you gotta jump on it? And I am not talking huge amounts of money either, like between $5-40?

 

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I usually just tell my wife "Woman, I am the man of this house and I will spend what I want, when I want, and on whatever I want. Oh and if that doesn't work I will beg. Usually the latter.
But in all seriousness, when you are in a relationship you have to consider her side. If you agreed on a budget for coins, you should stick to it. I know that is almost impossible, but money issues in a relationship are poison.
Sincerely
Dr. Phil

 

I'll stop buying coins when she stops buying shoes/purses. I'll get to buy until I die ;0

 

Not only is it a hobby but it's also an investment. If you were to take up a hobby like golf, you'd be spending alot more. Is there somewhere else you can cut spending to increase your coin budget? For instance, bringing lunch to work instead of eating out? Or just stop eating all together!

Maybe focus on roll searching for awhile?

 

Lol, this strikes home since I just bought my wife another Coach purse so she won't get so mad about my coins. Sometimes I do have to admit, with my front room wall covered with book shelves containing over 700 ancient and modern coin book titles, and a few hundred history titles, how should could see it as a little overboard.

I kinda went on a buying spree for a few years, and now have just as much fun going through my purchases and groups I bought as buying anything new really. So, I have slowed down and this seems to be taking the pressure off the relationship.

 

Actualy coins is my only hobby and we just paid off most of our debt. I aso have been selling off extra's I have to pay for some of my purchases. Since she does the checkbook she ALWAYS know's when I have bought something. I even went so far as to do a spreadsheet with all of the US Mint subscriptions, how much they are and when they are due. Still, she feels the need to restrict me to what I told her I would spend. However, I explained to her that that was before I really got into collecting and knew how much some of teh coins I want are. She brought up the fact I am trying to complete my halfs collection and dollar collection. I explained that right now with silver so high it is cheaper for me to fill in my other needs like nickles, non-silver quarters and pennies right now. I still need from 1961 to 48 for my Franklins and several years of Walking Liberties at the moment. I just completed my ikes. I also have my Unc collection to finish as well. Oh well, sometimes it is just easier to beg or ask for forgiveness after the fact.

 

Coinut, if you were spending it on booze or drugs, then I would expect flack. Spending a modest amount on an intreresting hobby should be encouraged rather than ****ed on.

 

I catch flack from my GF about my roll searching addiction (Yes, it's an addiction) all the time. She is fairly understanding, and I probably put away about $150-$200 a month in copper cents. Additional coin purchases total another $100 or so every month... minimum.

I spend way too much money on this crap, hah.

 

Oh I agree, I don't party anymore, I don't have any other hobby. Besides I got into this thru her Dad who collected and is where I got started as I got part of his collection. She just see's the little amounts coming out and keeps asking me " When will it be enough?" I told her never, that I try and buy at or below value when I can and I want to pass this down to our boys someday. She would rather spend the money on the kids. My view is I work hard and 99.99% of my money goes to everyone else so I should be able to spend some on myself. And I don't keep her from bying what she wants as long as we have the money is what I tell her.

 

Dude, she's got something of yours in her purse.

It's your money, do whatever you want with it. Pay the bills, have something set aside for the kids, another chunk for retirement, and the rest, blow as you please. My parents nearly broke up because my mother wouldn't let my dad have any discretionary income. They ended up holding one joint account that takes care of the bills (They direct deposit what's necessary) and the remainder goes into personal accounts that they can do whatever they want with. My dad bought himself a 1970 Cuda and a 2009 Challenger. My mom bought an addition for the house. Things have never been better between the two of them.

 

Dad must be an old Road Warrior. The Challenger is nice. But a 70 Challenger over a cuda, would have been super !!!!

 

It's a '70 cuda, convertible, 440 4speed. Sex on wheels, imho.

The 2009 is just because he is tired of fixing cars all the time and wants something he can drive around with no worries.

 

I mentioned that, she did NOT like that idea. But we may hav eto do that as I am tired of having to defend myself all the time and answer her questions liek I am some suspect.
70 Cuda, sweet! I love cars but I can't afford THAT hobby! lol

 

Your Man Card is hereby revoked until further notice!

You are a grown man, act like one. You don't need her permission for anything you do (within reason of course).

 

Now, there's the wisdom of experience. You sound like someone who's had more marriages than the rest of us put together.

 

Or not married at all!

 

If my girlfriend ever told me how to spend my money, she'd find herself looking for a new boyfriend in a hurry.

As my homeboy Joe Ducreux would attest;

 

Nope, 1 marriage only and happily married for 14 years.

 

Marriage is a partnership. You are right you should be able to spend your money how you want, but if there was an agreed upon budget and you keep going over it you need to either do like our government and increase the budget or do like someone who wants to not have a fight with their wife every month and spend within your means. Been married three times and I now just figured out I can't do whatever I want whenever I want , unless I want to find wife #4. That being said my wife never asks me how much I spend on what, but I don't spend more than my discretionary budget allows. Good deal or not. Coin collecting is not a race for me. I buy what I like when I can afford it.