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Perhaps you could have smiled and said…. Well, I was looking hard at your $1100.00 coin. But I’ll just put the cash back in my pocketbook….. That dealer will never make that mistake again.

 

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Sure they will, they'll think youre full of you know what. There's no reason to engage at all unless you see some big cherry pick you can get from them. You're never going to teach them anything theyll just wait for someone to try and take advantage of

 

I would of gave it right back to them. I don’t have many pieces of mind left but I sure would of made them feel pretty small. My name’s Cheech. I get that crap also.

 

Oh that’s a good one. Hope you don’t mind if I use that one

 

I wouldn’t go that far

 

You're a better person than I am

 

For you @furryfrog02 guessing you know French

 

I didn’t hear that. Check your spell check. Says something about a 1st Sgt’s bringing wrong. Not when leading his team.

 

I'm a linguist by trade, Cheech. I can pick apart enough to get me by

 

Sorry to hear your experience. I can't imagine being female at any of the events I go to.
I wouldn't get too upset. Zoom out to big picture. And this isn't a criticism of anyone just facts.
Your average coin collector/dealer doesn't tend to be a big socialite, probably doesn't deal with the opposite gender on a regular basis AND is in business for themselves so they are "The boss". They don't send themselves to mandatory trainings to learn about implicit biases, ageism, sexism, racism or who knows what else. Many will inherently not handle a social or business interaction well with a female as it's just not often encountered in this hobby. Personalities vary. There are implicit biases built in that people aren't aware of and so aren't likely to change. If you realize that going in, not much should phase you.

 

I have to admit, every time I see your name pop up I cringe a little. In the back of my mind I wonder if my bride of the same name is trying to research my stuff.

 

Some dealers can be jerks and some can be great. Don't let them bother you. Have some fun with them. I've run into a lot of dealers that think they know everything about coins and try to make you feel stupid. Those are the one I like to mess with. If there is a coin or two, you're looking for go to a show prepared. Learn everything you can about those coins before you go. That way you will likely know more than the dealer selling the coins you're interested in. If you run into a dealer that thinks they know everything and is a jerk start hitting them with the coins spec's or very specific information about the coin. It will blow their mind. You may even great a good deal on the coin.

 

This experience has happened to my wife frequently at coin shows with these old school chauvinists and she just walks always from them when they pull the act. In some cases these dealers assume she is completely ignorant of the hobby, but she gets a kick out of their limited social behavior and we get a laugh. We look at it this way - if you treat us with respect and kindness, don’t put on a speel that we have no clue of what we’re buying, and can converse a little, we will look at your stuff if anything is there of interest.

By the way, I have also seen some female dealers act disrespectful, and their tables are also empty.

 

1922 Morgan?

 

No further cringing necessary, ain't me, lol.

 

We need more ladies in the hobby. Same with young people. Dealers that run people off should be called out for being jerks. Most dealers are good people and treat customers with respect. You never know how much money is in the pocket of a customer.

 

Thank you all, for your feedback and support. This is why I really like this site and this site is where I feel most comfortable with this great hobby.
Not my first rodeo with this situation, been to USMA in the early days and am an engineer. I don't think things like this are said out of malice, just that their thinking isn't up to date. Now I think I'd like to help them bring it up to date. I'm going to try to do that nicely next time it happens, hit it head on, politely, with questions about their assumptions. I'll see if that works. If it doesn't, oh well.

 

As an engineer and husband of a wife who appreciates the hobby, I am glad you brought up this important topic. Many of those chauvinistic dealers lack social skills.

Perhaps at coin shows they should provide HR experts to resolve issues! On the record, I am joking here.

 

Or, you could punch them in the nose...Ha!

 

My ex wife is an engineer, and my current wife has an engineering degree and worked in the field before becoming an RN. Underestimate them at your own peril