Numismatics damaging to family life

I don't think children are causative at all. They are not fussy about the cookers degree of repair just that it cooks, or if they go to Florida or Wales.......they just have fun anyway. This is an aspirational, class; or relative deprivation issue. Women who do not work for a living derive their status from their spouse or partner. If their man spends the discreditionary income on coins instead of a new kitchen or better still, a new house they get p----- off. The children then become the pawn to be used to exact retribution for numismatic largesse.

 

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What a crock, and bunch of excuses. Be a man, and take care of your kids. Now, you are blaming your partner for your financial indiscretions? You're great at excuse-making, and putting blame on someone else. Look in the mirror for the person to blame, mate. Sorry, but i don't buy your act--it is horsefeathers.

 

Ouch!

 

I see, it was becuase I mentioned Florida! So unfair.

 

I don't care if you mention Quebec. Once again, flippancy. You started this thread, not I. I've supported my family, and built coin collections at the same time, several times. People here sincerely (myself included) think you need help, not glibness. You're not lacking in the verbosity department, nor in the ability to be humorous so as to avoid responsibility of your own actions. I didn't start this missal--you brought it up, and do you honestly not expect to be criticized?

 

There was a similar thread over on one of the gem forums, that is the reverse gender mix as here. Men members are few there. A woman said her husband left and took the hunting shotgun and pickup because she had spent $50,000 on jewelry during the last year and his check to buy a new car had bounced. The comments were basically " at least you still have the jewelry, its harder to get than another man"

 

Hate to say it, but some women treasure their jewelry more than anything. Don't know why.

 

My only indiscretion is lack of house maintainance...........clearly an especially egregious offence in FL.......

 

Yes, and this entire thread is a waste of all of our times.

 

I want to see some pics of the coins you picked up, and a pic of the gal who left before I say anything.

 

And as a similar act of gender contrition, will willingly admit quite a few men value their "toys" above all else. Both sides are equally at fault.

 

No wonder you Brits needed us Yanks to save your country.

 

My wife sure treasures hers. But seeing as I'm the one who buys the majority of her jewelry she rates me a distant second. I'll take what I can get!
Guy

 

Oh poor, poor you.

 

I drink, collect coins, bodybuild, make money, and have the greenest grass in the neighborhood. Be addicted to being awesome, its amazing.

On the real, you can do everything you want and need to do. Just be more efficient and push the other things out of the way when family needs you.

 

I suspect that the coin expenditure last month was simply the straw that broke the camel's back.

I also expect that whatever led up to that final straw has more bearing on your situation than just the one.
However, your original post was worded in such a way as to actually feed the "CT Morality Police" into a Moral Frenzy so those negative post should be expected.

ANYTHING can damage your life if done to excess but then ....... you already know that.

Here's hoping your situation turns out well for you and your family whatever that solution might be.

 

In further examining the thread, I see much in the way of excuses. You can talk the way a therapist talks, look for "reasons" and triggers and all that stuff, but in the end, happy people act with discipline. Unhappy people don't, probably because they have their "reasons" handy.

If I were you, I would never again examine, dig, express, or search for answers. The answer is to act with discretion, free will, and confidence and the "reasons" are unimportant and disappear.

 

Is England a Community Property Country?

Sorry for the tears. I've been there and done that. I guess I could put my finger on a thousand different things that "might" have made a difference but its a free world and when she decides she no longer wants to co-habitate, there's just not much that can be done other than to grieve.

It does get better with time though.

Is she really gone?

 

If you want her back then go and clean up your house; if you don't want her back... then go and clean up your house!

 

First step on the road to recovery is admitting you have a problem, which you've done.

Why not sell off your coins, fix the house, maybe an addition off the back that has a nice hot tub, fix her some bangers and mash, a little vino, and try to mend that fence and get her back?